NLP is founded on the premise that "the kinds of problems that people have usually have nothing to do with content; they have to do with the structure, the form of how they organize their experience. Yes, process matters - as in therapy, so in literature. In the forward, the authors somewhat guiltily admit that this is "a record of a story that was told", and that they would like to "reassure the reader that the non-sequiturs, the surprising tangents, the unannounced shifts in content, mood or direction But here, they only serve to confuse and otherwise detract from what might have otherwise been an interesting message.
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Check out Frogs into Princes: Neuro Linguistic Programming at Amazon Chapter 1 — Sensory Experience By studying people who are unusually talented, you can determine the structure of that talent and then teach it to others as a foundation.
The function of modeling is to arrive at descriptions, which are useful — does it work or not? Can we get the same results as the person we modeled? There is a belief that doing specific things to get specific outcomes is manipulation. Many therapists and other communicators are unsuccessful because they mismatch representational systems. Words bring into your consciousness certain parts of your experience and not other parts.
When you learn a language, you inherit the wisdom and otherwise of the people who have gone before you. Labels are traps; they stabilize behavior in unuseful ways. Representations of words There is a difference between what we experience and how we represent it. Our words connect to our experiences. Most right-handed people look up and to the left for remembered images, and up and to their right for constructed images.
People give you information about what they are doing non-verbally. We learn to pay attention to certain pieces. We are all capable of noticing other aspects, for example tiny changes in skin color. NLP Strategies The way you motivate yourself may have the same structure as jealousy — you make a picture of what you want that feels good and then tell yourself how to make that picture come true.
Most learning disabilities are functions of the education system. All good spellers have the same formal strategy. They see a remembered image of the word they want to spell, and they know whether it is accurate by a kinesthetic check at the midline.
If you have different brain organization than most other people, you will have novel behavior. Use of representational systems To communicate at the unconscious level without any awareness i. To translate between representational systems To create an altered state. For those who visualize all the time it will be far less useful.
If you ask a question involving a motor program you can observe the parts of their body they will have to use in order to access the information. Three major patterns of successful communicators. Knowing what outcome they want. Flexibility to generate different behaviors to get different responses The sensory experience to notice when they are getting the responses they want. If you have the sensory refinements to discover the specific steps in the process the person uses to create an unuseful response they want to change, it gives you multiple points of intervention.
Anything that changes the representational system, pattern or sequence will make the response they are stuck in no longer possible. Many professional codes limit behavior. The interesting thing about some things that are not professional is that they work. Most mental patients are very good at acting weird and eliciting responses from people.
People in mental institutions can tell you why they are the way they are, where it came from and how they stay unwell. Mirroring is the essence of rapport, i. Once you have paced, you can lead the person into new behavior by changing what you are doing.
Pacing someone gives you rapport and trust and enables you to use their reality to change it. Choice is having multiple responses to the same stimulus.
Bridging uses stimulus conditioning — make the trigger i. Personal history is a myth; therefore, we can use it as a resource instead of a set of limitations. We can even generate an appropriate personal history through dreams. Changing personal history is going back into your history and adding resources. Somewhere in our experience, we have an appropriate resource we can transfer. Words, postures and gestures can anchor us. Buildings and rooms can be anchors.
Couples get into trouble because the response they want from the other is different from the one they actually get. Instead of creating pleasant anchors through touch when they are happy, couples usually anchor each other into unpleasant states.
A phobia is a one trial learning that was never updated. Chapter 3 — Finding New Ways Reframing — contacting the part responsible for a behavior and dealing with the secondary gain its outcome. Step 1 — Identify the pattern the person wants to change. Step 2 — Establish communication with the part. Step 3 — discover the intention of the part responsible for the pattern. Step 5 — ask the part if it would be willing to accept try out the new choices for a certain time Step 6 — Check to ensure there are no objections to the new choices.
Sometimes a part organizes a behavior to do something and forgets why. It gets caught up in resisting your attempts to stop it. When behavior is disruptive, it is best to use it rather than try to stop it. You can even use this process with physiological symptom. Alcohol and drugs are anchors. You need to take care of the secondary gain what you get from them or some other thing will replace them. Once you have found effective ways to get the secondary gain then you anchor something else to take the place of the alcohol or drug stimulus.
Conflicts With opposing views, you can reframe the two responses as alternate ways of getting an agreeable outcome. When both agree, the focus then becomes the most effective efficient way to get that outcome. There is no necessary relationship between pain and change. Any belief system is both a set of resources, and a set of limitations. Related Posts.
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